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‘Lifetime’ by Ben&Ben and all about the unsaid feelings

Ben&Ben Lifetime

The idea of ‘lifetime with your SO’ hits different when you know it was nothing but just a good dream.

Filipino indie folk/folk-pop band, Ben&Ben, launched their new song Lifetime, giving us another reason to be reminiscent of our past selves. The group wrote and recorded the song during the quarantine after getting inspirations from a comment by their fan on one of their videos.

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The fan shared in a comment on how she secretly fell in love with her best friend from high school and how he had also secret feelings for her, but since both are afraid to ruin their friendship, they never told each other about what they truly feel, until the guy ended up marrying another woman.

“Before his wedding, he thanked me for being his best friend and told me that before he met the girl he got married to, he loved me first. For 5 years. But he was also scared of losing me so he just decided to keep it,” she recounted.

“We didn’t know that if only one of us dared to make a move, a lifetime was waiting for us,” she added.

Ben&Ben Lifetime
via Spotify

With the quarantine measures being implemented due to the pandemic, the brand improvised their own recording booth, and finally released a song that is making its listeners cry. Not to mention that Ben&Ben also worked with master engineer Leon Zervos, the same guy who has mastered songs for international artists including Maroon 5, P!nk, and Rihanna among others.

“Was there a lifetime waiting for us In a world where I was yours?” the song starts.

Though the song is short, I love that the lyrics are like words from a poem or an old love letter found in a pile of old books⁠—a letter that makes you cry when you read again after writing it when you were younger. And then it comes back to you, again.

Apparently, the commenter’s story isn’t new to everyone. Once in our lives, we were secretly in love with a friend but we kept it to ourselves and pretended like it’s not happening. It’s hard! I was in that position, too, but I just happened to forget that feeling after years of hiding it. I’m very happy now, though.

“Was it the wrong time? What if we tried, giving in a little more to the warmth we had before.”

All these what-ifs and could-have-beens. Actually, would it be worth it for people if they risk? Maybe, yes, to a certain extent, maybe no. But I think it’s okay to be brave and be honest about how you feel then just cross the bridge when you get there. If it turned out the way you do not want it, I guess it’s better to take the bitter pill than live with regret for not trying. Love isn’t always about the happiness of one’s self.

Watch the music video of Lifetime by Ben&Ben:

(2) Comments

  1. Oh what a heartbreaking song! I was in love with my best guy friend, I guess he hadn’t quite made it to that status quite yet actually, but I poured my heart out in a letter to him and he said he wasn’t feeling it in return. A few years later, we are now best friends and I no longer carry a torch for him. But sometimes I wonder if we had met at a different time in life, would we have worked out.

    1. It is! Such a beautiful yet heartbreaking song. I admire your courage for telling that to your friend. At least you tried and there’ll be no regrets. Thank you for sharing 🙂

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