I’ve been only in this world for more than a decade yet I feel like I’ve been through many ups and downs of life.
I’d just want to share things that I realized at this age, and I believe there are more lessons to come as I grow older.
It’s okay to burn bridges
When I mean burn bridges, it’s not about temporary relationships. It’s more on losing friends, even your closest ones. It’s okay, if you really need to. Sometimes, it’s better that way and you don’t have to blame yourself for doing so.
Choose your battles
As someone who’s always up for arguments, challenges, and proving myself, I realized there are battles that are just not worth our mental health.
It’s fine to say no
I’ve learned this at the early stage of my life, and I always say this to people who seem to accommodate too much things in their life more than they can manage. Learn to say no. We don’t have to always please everyone surrounding us.
Do not compare your friends’ achievements with yours
It’s hard to feel like you’re not doing enough as much as your friends in terms of career. I realized we have different timelines and it’s not always about being “the better one”—should be “the better self.”
People won’t say sorry even if they’re at fault
Sadly, there were people in my life who didn’t feel any remorse when they had done me wrong. And I guess that’s how life is; you move on and forget even without getting an apology.
Quality over quantity
I usually don’t have big circles of friends, and I realized it’s better than having a lot of people in my inbox. I personally find it exhausting to talk to many people simultaneously.
Sometimes, it’s really just overthinking
I’m an overthinker and I tend to overanalyze things more than the I should. I’m a constant worrier who thinks of all the potential hurdles that I may come across. Sometimes, it’s really just in the mind. Give your mind some rest and cross the bridge when you get there.
Voice out what you believe is right
I’ve known people who stay quiet even when they have some valuable points to say. The thing is, it’s not bad to share your thoughts. Who knows? You can be of big help!
Crying isn’t a weakness
I always thought that a person who cries at the slightest things are weak, but I was wrong. Even a person who has a strong personality would end up in the situation where they can no longer hold their tears. It’s human to cry. It’s normal. It’s a way of relieving yourself from pain, and it helps a lot.
Have some “me time”
Having a time for yourself is important. It gives you time to meditate or even free your mind from work, conflicts, news, or whatever is happening around you. Watching movies, series, reading books, baking, drinking—you’re free to treat yourself some quality “me time.”
What have you realized at your age now? I’d love to hear your thoughts!