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How I met my boyfriend on Tinder (we’re now on our 3rd year!)

When I tell other people that I met my boyfriend on Tinder, their initial reactions are almost the same – shocked, amazed. Well, it’s true, and we have just celebrated our third anniversary.

I had a bad impression of dating apps like Tinder. I took it as a platform for hookups, flirts, sexual predators, and whatever. That is why I did not even install Tinder the first time someone advised me to do so. I mean, I would not want to meet a stranger and play games because that would be a total waste of time as I was working already. Besides, I’m not into liking people I don’t even know.

A first-time user on Tinder

Apparently, after some persistent demand from friends, I installed Tinder. There is no harm in trying, I thought.

To be honest, I was uncomfortable using the dating app at first. I had a hard time swiping people right, so most of the time I swiped left. It even took me a couple of days to finally start swiping people right. It was fun to match with others! However, it’s either I never really talked to them or the conversations were unremarkable.

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Later on, I started losing my interest in using the app. It wasn’t for me, I guessed. It wasn’t until I matched with him and we started talking. He was working at a five-star hotel, only less than two kilometers from my workplace. And when he learned that we were working in the same city, he asked to meet me but I said no. Funny as it may seem, I panicked because I didn’t even think that I would meet anybody from Tinder for real.

To cut the long story short, I agreed to meet him for a dinner after a couple of weeks. He asked me out again the following weekend and our dates became a routine. We enjoyed watching movies, had dinner dates, and he started picking me up at work. Our houses are 21 kilometers away and up until now he still spends his time to send me home.

I was in a great dilemma whether we should continue going out or not. I didn’t like the confusion I was feeling, and I thought I didn’t want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of it. But after some contemplating, I decided to give it a go.

And that is how he became my first boyfriend. He knew it so I asked him to be patient with me as I learn along the way. Fortunately, he has been patient because I know women can sometimes be difficult to understand. He, later on, decided to work overseas on a cruise ship which required him to stay on board for eight months. We had been in a long-distance relationship for a total of 16 months. And surprisingly, we survived it even though I had no idea how to manage a relationship, let alone an LDR.

Related: The art of long-distance relationship

To this day, I never hide the fact that I met my boyfriend on Tinder whenever people ask me. And I’m happy I heeded my friend’s advice to try it. Otherwise, I would probably be in the same state.

Your SO must be waiting on a dating app

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“We are now digital. If you want to meet people, be present where they are.”

A friend told me this once, which is true. Everyone spends most of their time online, so if you’re a home buddy like me, why not try meeting potential partners online? But if your choice is to wait for fate to give it, it’s still okay.

Aside from celebrating our third year, I am writing this post to discourage everyone from believing that using Tinder or any dating app is foolish. I am aware that there are horror stories from people who have used the apps, but know that there’s somebody in there who’s up for a committed relationship. There are other people like me who also met their partners on a dating app, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

Related: Stop dating men that give mixed signals

Of course, using a dating app comes with a risk. Sometimes, you meet a douche bag, a cheater, or somebody who just wants your nudes. But if you really know what you’re looking for and why you are using it, you wouldn’t waste time talking to people that show red flags.

Talk only to someone that makes sense – those that match your energy. There’s a lot of fish in the sea! Swipe wisely.

What’s your experience in dating apps? I’d love to hear your stories!

32 Comments

  • Jah

    Yay! Ang sweet 😍 I never tried using dating apps. But it’s rare ate huh? Congratulations on your 3rd anniversary! Stay inlove ❤❤

  • Karalee

    That’s amazing you met your boyfriend on Tinder and you have been together for 3 years!
    I met my boyfriend in a Facebook group and for the first year we were long distance (I lived in the US & him in Denmark). We have now been together for over 5 years, we live together in Denmark & we have a daughter together.

  • Michelle

    Happy anniversary! It’s amazing that you found someone on Tinder, although I never tried it. My boyfriend’s sister also found her husband on Tinder, so take that haters! 🙂

  • Paige

    This is so sweet; and I love how you have a Tinder success story! Despite having some bad stories from there, this shows that there are some genuine people out there who are looking for their match. I love how he still sees you home; it is so lovely how that kind of magic hasn’t faded. I haven’t used any dating apps before but can see the benefit if you are single!

    Paige // Paige Eades

    • The Queensights

      Never in my life did I think I would ever get my first boyfriend through a dating app! Haha. Definitely thankful that I’m one of the few success stories in Tinder 🙂 Thank you for sharing your thoughts! x

  • Avery Paige

    Hello! I find comfort in knowing that there are a lot of succesful matches from dating apps. I also met my boyfriend on Tinder and we just celebrated our 3rd anniversary last July. But unlike you, I can’t seem to be truthful when people asks me where I met my boyfriend.

  • Stephanie

    I truly love hearing stories like this, because it provides hope for so many people who are curious whether or not it’s even possible to find a relationship through an app. While it wasn’t how I met my husband, I do know of others who had great success like you! Wishing you and your SO the best of luck for the future!

  • Sunshine with Savannah

    Great post! I enjoy reading stories like these and learning from them. Even though I’m only 25 and dating apps have been huge throughout my transition to adulthood, I feel very fortunate that I’ve been with my husband since I was 16. I literally have zero experience in the online dating space, and it’s really interesting to hear stories, especially successful ones like yours. Thank you for sharing!

  • AJ

    You really never know where you can meet your SO. This is soo cutee, my best friend and her boyfriend met over IG and they’ve been together for 7/8 years now. I mean it’s not a dating site but it is online.

    It just goes to show that people are mostly online now, it’s pretty hard to find someone who isn’t on any social media sites. Hehe love this!

  • Shirsha

    Awww that’s such a cute story! I’ve never used dating apps – been with my husband for the last 14 years – but I love hearing stories like this! Wish you many more happy years of togetherness. 🙂

  • Jenny in Neverland

    That’s amazing that you met your boyfriend through Tinder and managed to survive such a lengthy LDR. I admire you for that! I’ve never used a dating app and I’m in a long term relationship so unless anything happens there, I probably won’t need to. The prospect terrifies me!

  • Natalie Barletta

    Wow congratulations on your anniversary! This is such a sweet story. I used dating apps with mixed results. I met my boyfriend through work so it’s safe to say I didn’t end up needing the apps in the end.

  • Cue Adulthood

    Awww, I’m so happy you went to write this! I was actually looking forward for this post after you mentioned the idea on Twitter LOL. This is so cute! I feel like the media portrays dating apps as a bad experience, so it’s nice to hear a success story! Also, the fact your boyfriend was patient is goals. Congrats on your anniversary! 🎉

  • clairelomax2018

    Congratulations on your 3rd anniversary. I kinda met my fiance through Tinder, although we knew each other through friends, we had never spoken. We found each other on there and got chatting but he was dating someone else so we stopped texting. I was really gutted as I knew there was something about him.

    6 months later we finally met at our mutual friends house and the rest is history! I think without Tinder early on, I probably wouldn’t have given him a chance, but we’d clicked so well on there.

    I think it is a great place to meet someone as long as you’re careful x

  • Beth

    It’s nice to hear a positive Tinder story for once! I had the app up until a few months ago. I first got it because I felt I was ready to start dating again after breaking up with my ex, but over time I found I was only using it to gain some sort of validation that guys actually liked me because I wasn’t getting any attention offline. I do find a lot of people are only really interested in sex on that app, but there are still many who want a relationship. Congratulations on your three year anniversary x

  • Hayley

    Aww I love this! I absolutely love hearing other people’s “how we met” love stories, they just fill my heart with so much joy. Congratulations on your anniversary!

    I actually met my now-husband on Plenty of Fish which is a dating site/app. We’ve been together now for almost 5 years and yeah, it’s been pretty great. 😊

  • Abundance of Flavor

    This is such a sweet post! I love that you guys found each other and it’s been going well for you 🙂 I feel like dating apps are the new “normal” and so many people meet this way! I love hearing these stories, thanks for sharing!

  • Georgia

    I met my boyfriend on Tinder too! We’ve been together since the day we met in February 2016, have bought a house, and are expecting our first baby.
    Who knew you could have a whirlwind love story from an app? Congratulations on your relationship success.

    George|www.britvoyage.com

  • Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader)

    I know several people…even in my age group…who met their life partners online. Glad to hear it’s working out for you!

  • Fritzie | Life Travel Soul

    What a cute love story. I met my hubby 20 years ago and there were no dating apps during that time… haha. We were on LDR for a few years before we got married. Anyway, sometimes we find love on unexpected places. Glad you are on your 3rd year. Congratulations!

  • Teresa

    I found my ex and my current boyfriend on Tinder. I met both for a first date after just couple days of chatting on the app (I don’t like texting, I like face-to-face interaction) and with my ex it took 4 months of uncertainty to figure out whether we were together or not. Surprise, it didn’t last either ;D With my current boyfriend, on the other hand, communication works so well and I know exactly where I am with him. At the end of the day Tinder just brings people together and the rest is up to you 🙂 I like that, I’m so fed up with algorithms trying to choose what I “want” to see, but with Tinder it’s the opposite.

    Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

  • Abundance of Flavor

    It’s so awesome that it worked out for you! One of my close friends met his now wife on match.com and they love telling people about it. Their hashtag for the wedding was “match date to soul mate” haha. Good luck on doing distance!

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