When I tell other people that I met my boyfriend on Tinder, their initial reactions are almost the same – shocked, amazed. Well, it’s true, and we have just celebrated our third anniversary.
I had a bad impression of dating apps like Tinder. I took it as a platform for hookups, flirts, sexual predators, and whatever. That is why I did not even install Tinder the first time someone advised me to do so. I mean, I would not want to meet a stranger and play games because that would be a total waste of time as I was working already. Besides, I’m not into liking people I don’t even know.
A first-time user on Tinder
Apparently, after some persistent demand from friends, I installed Tinder. There is no harm in trying, I thought.
To be honest, I was uncomfortable using the dating app at first. I had a hard time swiping people right, so most of the time I swiped left. It even took me a couple of days to finally start swiping people right. It was fun to match with others! However, it’s either I never really talked to them or the conversations were unremarkable.
Later on, I started losing my interest in using the app. It wasn’t for me, I guessed. It wasn’t until I matched with him and we started talking. He was working at a five-star hotel, only less than two kilometers from my workplace. And when he learned that we were working in the same city, he asked to meet me but I said no. Funny as it may seem, I panicked because I didn’t even think that I would meet anybody from Tinder for real.
To cut the long story short, I agreed to meet him for a dinner after a couple of weeks. He asked me out again the following weekend and our dates became a routine. We enjoyed watching movies, had dinner dates, and he started picking me up at work. Our houses are 21 kilometers away and up until now he still spends his time to send me home.
I was in a great dilemma whether we should continue going out or not. I didn’t like the confusion I was feeling, and I thought I didn’t want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of it. But after some contemplating, I decided to give it a go.
And that is how he became my first boyfriend. He knew it so I asked him to be patient with me as I learn along the way. Fortunately, he has been patient because I know women can sometimes be difficult to understand. He, later on, decided to work overseas on a cruise ship which required him to stay on board for eight months. We had been in a long-distance relationship for a total of 16 months. And surprisingly, we survived it even though I had no idea how to manage a relationship, let alone an LDR.
To this day, I never hide the fact that I met my boyfriend on Tinder whenever people ask me. And I’m happy I heeded my friend’s advice to try it. Otherwise, I would probably be in the same state.
Your SO must be waiting on a dating app
“We are now digital. If you want to meet people, be present where they are.”
A friend told me this once, which is true. Everyone spends most of their time online, so if you’re a home buddy like me, why not try meeting potential partners online? But if your choice is to wait for fate to give it, it’s still okay.
Aside from celebrating our third year, I am writing this post to discourage everyone from believing that using Tinder or any dating app is foolish. I am aware that there are horror stories from people who have used the apps, but know that there’s somebody in there who’s up for a committed relationship. There are other people like me who also met their partners on a dating app, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
Of course, using a dating app comes with a risk. Sometimes, you meet a douche bag, a cheater, or somebody who just wants your nudes. But if you really know what you’re looking for and why you are using it, you wouldn’t waste time talking to people that show red flags.
Talk only to someone that makes sense – those that match your energy. There’s a lot of fish in the sea! Swipe wisely.
What’s your experience in dating apps? I’d love to hear your stories!