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6 ways to practice self-love if you struggle with body image

6 ways to practice self-love

Guest post written by Artie Carden

Hey friends, my name is Artie I’m a nonbinary writer and creator with a focus on mental and physical health. I am disabled and in the weird zone between mid-size and plus-size. I like to talk about body acceptance and things that have helped me reach the point in recovery and self-acceptance I am at now. I’m here to give you 6 simple tips to self-love that’ll help change your view on yourself and are a good place to start if you’re unsure of where to begin. 

Unfollow toxic accounts

We all see the same image when we think of a fitness or health Instagram account and they are often living a life that’s so privileged and out of reach for the average person, they give you more negative feelings than positive ones. There’s often a sense of jealousy or guilt that comes from viewing these accounts 24/7. These women are very slim, fit, eating food made from scratch from organic ingredients, and only show off their stomach rolls when it’s trendy.

We need to remember these people are outliers to the rule, they aren’t working 40+ hour weeks in sedentary jobs, they have the time and money to live this luxurious life and exercise for an hour or more a day with a personal trainer and, let’s be honest, still editing photos or getting body modifications without telling anyone. It’s just unrealistic, so unless you like the person for other reasons like their views on topics you find important, it’s time to unfollow. 

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Follow better accounts

One of the ways to self-love and normalise your body in your own eyesis by surrounding yourself with a range of different bodies and bodies closer to your resemblance. Social media is very heavily saturated by straight cisgender white skinny women who are non-disabled, but that’s not the real world. So, I recommend finding amazing women (not just women, also other genders) to follow who bring more to your feed than just stereotypical aesthetics.

Follow people of different races, who live in different places in the world, midsize and plus-size bodies, disabled and chronically ill bodies, tattooed bodies, LGBT+ bodies, and there are many humans whose identities overlap with more than one thing on the list! Seeing people loving their bodies in all states helps rub off some positive energy onto your own body. You don’t have to follow specifically body positive or body acceptance accounts, because there are many people who don’t focus on this particular theme but do a lot of body celebration in their own ways. 

Suggestions: scarrednotscared, charley_ann_, tanyacompas, crutches_and_spice, ellessechar, daytoncarrie, antidietriotclub, curvynyome, bodyposipanda, selfloveliv, jazzmynejay, mayainthemoment, chr0nicallycute, atribecalledjoyce, fullbodiedbekah, khal_essie.

Experiment with your clothes 

I spent a long time feeling self-conscious and wishing I could dress like these girls I followed online. Learning to love and accept myself has led to loving fashion and style so much. The size on the clothes means nothing, this has been debunked time and time again and once you can take on this fact and buy clothes that actually fit you, you will look better because you aren’t trying to squeeze yourself into something too small like a sausage.

You’ll feel more comfortable which will lead to you looking more confident because you aren’t thinking “oh god the button of my jeans is really digging into my stomach!” or “I hope no one can see my rolls”. Start with outfits or items you’ve seen others wear and really like, they might be too much for you right now but your confidence will keep building the more you try things on. 

Take photos of yourself

This might sound odd, but when you’re struggling with your appearance you need to take photos. Take loads. Face, body, mirror selfies, go wild. This will help normalise how you look to your brain and eventually learn the art of self-love.

You might think you look crazy bloated right now but look at the pictures later in a better brain space and you’ll see something different and that’ll help you find perspective and be less hard on yourself in moments of low self-esteem. In a world that puts numbers on our worth, from clothing size to weight to inches measured, it can be hard to see your body for what it is, rather than what it isn’t. Photos will help you see where your body is and normalise it to your eye. There is a fine line, however, and if you find yourself obsessing, it’s time to step away!

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Focus on what your body does right 

As a chronically ill person, this has been a really important lesson for me that I think more people could do with learning. It’s easy to think of all the things your body isn’t doing ‘right’ when you are comparing yourself to others and even to what the health ‘experts’ say. If you have a slow metabolism, it’s easy to think “my body is crap it doesn’t work properly because it doesn’t metabolise or burn fat like this person I know.”

Try to catch yourself in those moments and turn the phrase on its head. Something I was thankful for was that my weight had maintained roughly the same for 6 years after battling yo-yo dieting and weight loss weight gain through my teenage years into my 20s. I chose to be thankful that my body had clearly bounced back from this and was healing from the damage that had been done to it for many years. I am also thankful that I am able to enjoy some light exercise now whereas there was a point where I could not get out of bed, either for lack of energy or because of the pain I was in.

Be thankful that you are able to enjoy a special meal, but be careful this doesn’t turn into another type of comparison because you can easily slip into “at least I can do this thing, when this other person I know can’t” because comparison of any kind is not positive. 

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Exercise for fun, not for punishment

I feel like we are all taught growing up exercise has to suck and be boring. If you’re fed up of slugging away in a gym for hours on a treadmill, sit back and think about what movement you actually enjoy or would at least like to try.

Do you thrive on teamwork? What group sports teams are in your area you can try? Are you more of a creative person? Is there a style of dance you think would suit you? Are you more interested in slow-moving and feeling your body? Yoga or tai chi are good examples of this! Do you want to be surrounded by other women, or do mixed classes suit you fine? It doesn’t just have to be running on a treadmill or HIIT training. Any movement counts. Even just enjoying a walk.

Focus on creating a positive feeling when you exercise rather than the number of calories burned or minutes trained. Find what makes you feel good in your body and your mind. 

I hope these tips are helpful to those of you out there struggling with body image and acceptance. These took me 10 years to learn by myself and it still takes daily practice. No one is perfect, we all have good and bad days, we are human and it’s normal. Try to handle yourself with care when you’re having a low, but I know we can all improve upon our self-perception. 

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(32) Comments

  1. These are some really great tips, it’s so important to love the body you have and not the body you want! Thank you for sharing these!

  2. I recently started to follow a load of body positivity accounts on IG and it’s really helped with my confidence towards my appearance. I have begun exercising regularly to! You have some great advice here!

    1. I used to follow IG accounts that flaunt their seemingly “sexy bodies” until it became bad for me. Glad you have started following rather body positivy IG accounts! Thanks for reading 🙂

      1. These are some great tips and really helpful advice. I recently got rid of all toxic accounts over on Instagram and I feel so much better for it now.

    2. I’ve struggled with body image issues all my life, thanks to a childhood filled with racist abuse. I also believe you should exercise for the right reasons, and certainly ditch following accounts that promote unrealistic and unhealthy body images

  3. Michelle says:

    These are great tips! I don’t follow any of those fitness fanatics on social media anyway, so luckily I don’t have to worry about that. What has been a great help for me has been doing martial arts (currently first dan black belt in karate). It made me realise it’s not about how I look, it’s about how I feel, and karate makes me feel like a badass, which boosts my confidence so much.

    All the best, Michelle (

  4. Such beautiful reminders! I love wearing clothes that make ME feel good, and there is nothing like taking photos to find my inner confidence. Also, it is great to get out of the punishment exercise rut and start loving what your body can do. 🙂

    1. I stayed away from instagram because of this reason and I felt okay with it and actually better! I struggle with body insecurities too, and I think these tips are very useful especially bec I’m not really fond of taking pictures but I didn’t know that it can actually help me accept my body more easily. Thanks for this! ☺️💕

  5. Hey Artie, thanks for these tips! I never thought about taking photos of yourself as a way to promote body positivity. Some days, I know my complexion is so horrendous that I do not dare to lift my eyes to look at myself in the mirror. I seldom take photos of myself too, but perhaps, I will try. I mean, nobody has to see them anyway, right? Thanks once again for sharing! 🙂

  6. Great tips! I definitely agree with unfollowing social media accounts that make you feel bad. 💕

  7. Great tips. Enjoyed reading this 🙌

    1. Love this! Definitely advice we should all tell ourselves daily! Thanks so much for this.

  8. This year I’ve really cleared out my social media following. Also really tried to focus on more positive accounts.

  9. Every time I check my social accounts especially instagram, I always make sure to check who I follow. For clothes, I like to stay simple and comfortable. Thank you so much for these useful tips! xxx

  10. It’s a great insightful post! Clicking self is the best part of my self-love routine🤓. Great tips thanks for sharing.

  11. I love this as I struggle with being kind to myself about my body. There are things I want to change but I have to find a way to not be too down on myself about them. Fab post and tips from Artie!

  12. I do really need to cleanse my social media and get rid of toxic people, but I really do feel guilty for unfollowing sometimes especially since these people tend to be my ‘irl friends’!

    🌿 Marissa Belle × 🌿

  13. Love your tips. The first one reminded me of my sister. Sometimes when she sees a post from one these influencers, she will say, one more like this and I will unfollow you. I laugh every time. But you are right. When we are constantly surrounded by unrealistic images, it weighs on the head. It is actually nice that there is more body-positive messaging out there, this post included. We need more of that in the world!

  14. Abundance of Flavor says:

    I have definitely struggled with body image and really think your ideas would be so helpful in showing ourselves some love 🙂 Unfollowing toxic accounts is HUGE and has helped me so much in being happy and content with me, and taking pictures is a little silly but goes a long way with feeling good about yourself and giving you a boost.

  15. knowgoodwriter says:

    These are great tips. It’s great that you pointed out that what you’re feeding your mind from social media has an impact on how you feel. The tip of taking lots of photos of yourself was one I probably wouldn’t have thought of.

  16. Lauren says:

    These are great tips. I think focusing on what your body does right is something I really need to work on!

  17. Excellent post and I couldn’t agree more. The first thing I did was unfollow toxic accounts from both my instagram and facebook. I have no space nor time for others to make me feel bad about myself.

  18. Great tips!

    1. Great tips!! Loving oneself is something so many struggle with. I had a hard time taking pictures but the more I did it the more I loved it and my body

  19. These are some really great tips to practice for self-care. I really agree with unfollowing all of the toxicity and replace them with positivity and motivation.

  20. Thanks so much for the great tips. Social media is a tricky path. Toxic accounts are terrible for the psyche so those need to go!

  21. I struggle a lot with body image and low self esteem, so these tips were really helpful. Thank you 🙂 xxx

  22. Love these tips! Especially a good photo or a flattering outfit can make me feel so good about myself!

  23. These are such great tips! I think we always see another side of ourselves when looking in the mirror so I love the idea of taking a picture. Then you can see what you really look like.
    Thanks for sharing
    Mrs D

  24. This was a really enjoyable read. I often struggle with body image and unfollowing accounts that made me feel bad was a great turning point. It’s really helped me to see myself as ‘normal’ x

  25. These are brilliant tips! I especially like the idea of not following toxic accounts. We compare ourselves to an unrealistic sense of “beauty” when it’s just a social construct. We are all beautiful beings. Thanks for posting this!

  26. Body image is something that I’ve struggled with and I found this tips to be so great! I really loved the tip on following diverse accounts. Fantastic post!

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