Guest post written by Brittany of Mind Beauty Simplicity Blog
Two years. That’s how long I was hung up on you. I don’t exactly know what it was that drew me to you, but I think it was the kindness I saw in your eyes. But I came to realize, I didn’t really know you all that well & I was creating the perfect person in my mind.
Friends told me to move on but I was determined to make you mine, to have you see just how amazing I am. But you never did.
Funny how the “almost relationships” are the ones that hit you the hardest. Not the 4-year high school relationship of your first love. But the one that could have been. The one that never had a beginning, those are the ones that seem to leave a mark.
Maybe it’s because the idea you created in your mind of them seems just so damn perfect. But in reality, they aren’t that person at all. And it’s like an evil game of “make you love me” that is addictive. Who knows.
But how can we truly get past this “relationship” and find someone more worthy? Here are 5 Tips On Getting Over Someone You Never Even Dated:
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Ask Yourself Why You Want Them So Badly
Sometimes I think we can create this perfect idea of a person in our minds, especially when we are desperate for a type of love. The key is to let go of that mentality & just go with the flow. Instead of making someone into who you wish to have, why not go find the person who truly is. It may take time, but you are going to waste even more time focusing on someone who clearly doesn’t want you back. Pinpoint what is drawing you to them in the first place. They may not be right for you anyway.
Stop Forcing Something That Isn’t Right
Like peaches, not everyone is going to find you amazing. Stop trying to make someone fall in love with you. Wouldn’t it be so much easier being with someone who makes loving you easy? Stop molding yourself into someone you think they will like. I remember I would pretend to like the music they listened to when in reality I hated it. If they don’t like you for who you are, move on!
Let Yourself Be Sad
Like any heartbreak, you still have to mourn the loss to properly move on. So, be sad. Listen to some cheesy love songs, write in your journal, talk about it with your friends & get those feelings out. You won’t get over them if you don’t treat them like a loss. Accept the experience as what it was & move on.
Don’t Contact Them
Don’t check their Facebook. Don’t message them asking them what they thought of the game last night. Don’t give them that leverage to keep messing with you. And you know, if they just send you a sweet message of “Happy Birthday Beautiful”, you are back in the game. So please, delete their number completely if you have to. Whatever it takes.
Know Your Worth
Understand you deserve better. That “relationship thing” you call affection was anything but that. You want someone who fights for you. Someone who puts effort into showing you off, expressing their feelings, and claiming you as theirs without hesitation. And you will. I did.
You have to gain this sense of self-love for yourself. When you are hung up with someone who isn’t the same about you, it can create these feelings of not being worthy. So gain that confidence back. And yes, I’m upset with myself for being hung up on the idea of someone for that long. But I learned a lot about myself & what I want in relationships from that experience. So, in a weird way, I’m grateful it happened, because it led me to my happy ending.
About the Writer
Brittany is a minimalist lifestyle blogger on Mind Beauty Simplicity who focuses on topics of intentional living and living with less. She also dabbled in lifestyle topics such as makeup, fashion & home decor with her own perspective to the mix.